Why HBO’s ‘Girls’ is Problematic

For those of you who have seen the HBO series, “Girls” you knew this was coming. If you haven’t, watch it! Well…maybe read this post before you dive in.  

A few weeks ago I was reading Roxane Gay’s, Bad Feminist, a collection of short stories. One of the short stories discussed the show “Girls” and all the issues that were associated with it. I had heard mixed reviews about the show and decided to start my deep dive into analyzing the show. Through my research (aka eating ice cream and binge watching TV), I found out that this show is…unique to say the least. Groundbreaking? In many ways. Problematic? In many ways. This was one of the first shows to highlight the controversial topics of race, sexuality, gender and privilege. It’s a show that is made to make people uncomfortable. However…they missed the mark on a few big topics. 

First, they had an all white main cast. New York City is one of the most diverse places on the planet and they had an all white cast. Without a Black, Indigenous or Person of Color (BIPOC) as a lead character, the show fails to share the stories of underrepresented communities and can lose a large portion of potential viewership. This is pretty common with many TV shows about friend groups – Seinfeld, How I Met Your Mother, Friends, Sex and the City. This isn’t new and the media needs to do better.

Second, they had little BIPOC representation at all throughout the show. The main cast was all white and they truly didn’t make an effort to add any BIPOCs. There were a couple instances of diversity (i.e. Donald Glover as a brief love interest) but for the most part, every single character was white. This is not okay. It does not accurately represent the diverse communities in New York City let alone throughout the United States.



Third, the main character’s backstories show extreme privilege and lack of social awareness. Lena Dunham’s character, Hannah, was fully supported by her parents two years out of college. You read that correctly – two years. When her parents decided to cut her off, she was livid. Don’t get me wrong, everyone’s situation is different. Sometimes, people are supported by their families and loved ones for longer than they’d anticipated. That’s perfectly fine – this scenario was Hannah refusing to take accountability for her life and pursue her dream as a writer (which I can fully empathize with…) while freeloading off her parents. Although each character is different, they all have a similar story. They have financial and emotional support whenever they need it. That is a huge privilege that is never directly addressed throughout the show.

Lastly, they romanticize toxic relationships. Hannah and Adam, the main couple in the show, are beyond toxic. Adam, played by Adam Driver, is flakey and noncommittal, the king of gaslighting, peed on her in the shower without her consent and constantly uses Hannah’s feelings for him to manipulate her. So, yeah. It’s not super healthy. But she keeps going back to him. And she continues sacrificing great relationships (like with Donald Glover!!!) to stay with him. But Hannah loves Adam. Isn’t that enough? The romanticization of their toxic relationship is not only hard to watch but also somehow makes you root for him. He really is the king of gaslighting if he’s even gaslighting the audience.

Another lasting issue with the show is that the writer and main star, Lena Dunham, is problematic herself. She has made insensitive statements like that she “wishes” she had an abortion in order to empathize with women who have. This is not the first off putting statement by Dunham and it makes it difficult to support the show when the main writer and director is surrounded by controversy. There are more problems with this show. There are also glass ceilings they shattered. It’s meant to be uncomfortable and make you question certain aspects of life.

However, there could have been more effort and initiative when it came to diversity, inclusion and portraying healthy relationships. Maybe that’s the point? Maybe the point was to force people to observe the horrible toxic relationship. Maybe the point was to gawk at their privilege. Maybe the point was to feel uncomfortable by the Whiteness and start the conversation about race. Feel free to comment and let me know what you thought of “Girls”. And don’t worry if you’re a Hannah but think you’re a Marnie – we’ve all been there. It gets better.

Yasi Agah is a San Francisco native who loves to read, write, roller-skate and listen to Blink 182. Her favorite genre is definitely memoirs. Becoming by Michelle Obama makes her tear up every time she reads it.


  1. Yasi! Such a great review of the show. Spot on and fantastic writing to boot. Keep the reviews coming. You’re a talented writer.

    1. Yasi Agah

      Thank you so much! I appreciate the support 🙂

  2. Roshanak Mozafar

    Fantastic review and great observations! You rock Yas Yas 😘😘😘

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