The June book of the month has been announced and we’re reading FICTION this month! If you love The Handmaid’s Tale, you have to join us while we read The Power by Naomi Alderman. The Pamper Package is sponsored by Peney Cakes, so you’ll also receive some sweet treats and recipe cards when you sign up! Pamper Packages are limited to snag one ASAP. You can join us at any time, though! If you’ve already read this book that made President Obama’s book list for 2017 and the New York Times’ Best Books of 2017 list, we’d love to have you join us for discussion, support, and shenanigans throughout the month, too! Join at the general membership level to get access to all the community-building, sisterhood-strengthening, group coaching all month long. Learn more at wildcozytruth.com/bookclub
I adore Tiffany Patterson, today’s guest and one of the hosts of the podcast Get Caught Up. Tiffany is an ESL teacher in the New York public school system and a fierce proponent of millennial women’s empowerment. In this interview, we cover everything from March for Our Lives and generational differences between millennials and Gen Z, to her experience living with MS and the grief that accompanies the diagnosis of chronic illness.
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Something has shifted in the last month, something slight but enough to make me curious. The habits I could once count on to sustain me aren’t working anymore. They’re like post-it notes that have lost all their stickiness. They keep falling off, but instead of picking them up, I just look at them scattered on the floor. I know they’re there but I don’t know what to do with them anymore. Do I force them with a little tape to stick where they used to go? Do I rearrange them? Or do I abandon this metaphorical post-it note system altogether and see what else arises in its place?
I’ll let you guess what I’ve chosen. Spoiler alert: It’s not the easy route.
This liminal space is weird, mostly because I’m so acutely aware of being in it. I can’t be bothered to even try to do the things the way I used to. Even something as simple as my daily To Do list, a system I swore by for years, looks completely different. And this emerged naturally. Most days I don’t even make a To Do list. Have I outgrown the patterns that have served me for so long? If so, what do I put in their place?
My therapist pointed out that I seem to thrive on change. She was quick to remind me that it’s not wrong, just different from most people. I can nurture change in my life without completely overhauling it. And maybe that’s what this space is trying to show me — it’s time to make some healthy changes. It’s giving me permission to change for the sake of making change. I don’t necessarily have to wait for the habits or procedures to run their course, I can actually shift whenever I want.
My usual routine was comfortable. But over the last month, it’s been busted wide open. I welcome the discomfort. I’m sitting in it and getting creative with it. I’m asking “what if” and trying new habits and seeing how they feel. I’m not upset or sad or anxious or stressed. I’m just curious.
As I come to the end of this essay, I feel forced to punctuate it with some deep insight like I usually try to do. But I keep falling short. I have no succinct end, no bow to tie on this package, no beautiful final words. And I’m letting that be okay today. Because that’s curious, too.