Today’s episode begins with an essay about getting unstuck when you’re on the path to healing. We all struggle with reconciling our mind with our heart and body, and the key is patience. All it takes is one moment to jumpstart the process, and it will happen in its own time.
Then I sit down with Anielle Reid: witch, medium, musician, and host of the podcast Magick and Mediums. Anielle and I chat about a lot of juicy topics, including divination, pagan discrimination, her path to spirituality, race, gender, oppression, and more. What I love so much about our conversation is how we could disagree with one another’s approach but still show up with compassion and respect. It’s such a beautiful space and I’m grateful she was willing to honor that with me.
Lots of resources in this episode!
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The Stubborn Heart
Isn’t it interesting how the brain and heart sometimes refuse to work together? For instance, you may understand something rationally but your heart guides you to go a different direction, even though you know logically it’s wrong. I struggle with this disconnect between my heart and my mind a lot. I know in my brain that some of the stories I make up in my life aren’t true — they’re my anxiety trying to gain control — but my heart and body run with the false story anyways. I get stuck in patterns of beliefs and actions, a frustration that is compounded by the fact I know they’re not true. It’s as though I betray myself and want to prolong my own suffering.
I can talk limiting beliefs until I’m blue in the face, but overcoming them takes work. Maybe that’s what they mean by “The first step is admitting you have a problem.” Because admitting it doesn’t solve it. Depending on what it is, the tendrils might be so tangled that it could take years to unravel them. And knowing the best path to healing isn’t the same thing as actually walking that path or actually healing. The mind is smart but the heart is stubborn. Like, really stubborn. You’ll walk down paths you know are wrong just to see what’s there. Or you’ll walk down paths you think are right and follow them forever, waiting for the healing to just show up. And it’s frustrating when it doesn’t. There are few feelings more hopeless than feeling betrayed by the healing you deserve.
But sometimes all it takes is one small shift, one person to reframe it, one fresh word to describe your new path to get you unstuck and on your way. It could take years for your heart to catch up with your mind, and that’s okay. It’s stubborn for a reason. But have faith that one day, something will click for you and the healing process that once felt stalled will jumpstart with vigor. Your stubborn heart desperately wants to heal and, even though your rational mind knows the way, the heart requires a very special key to turn the engine. So keep reading, keep listening, keep talking and sharing and searching. The key your heart needs is somewhere. Be open to its arrival and patient with your growth. It will come in its own time. And you will heal.