Lots of people make bucket lists — those lists of things you want to do before you kick the bucket. But why don’t we create fuck it lists? As in, a list of things that no longer serve you. Embracing my new life as a grad school dropout has inspired me to create a fuck it list, and I’m sharing it with you in today’s essay.
Then we move onto more serious matters. Today’s guest is Sarah Webb, President and COO of Plaid for Women. Sarah is also a CPA and has years of experience climbing the corporate ladder. In this conversation, she essentially coaches me to create a better relationship with money, but she also sheds light on corporate networking and shares a time when asking for a raise went totally wrong. Learn more about Sarah, the #NoMoreMeanGirls campaign, and Plaid for Women at plaidforwomen.com or find Plaid for Women on Instagram @plaidforwomen.
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The Fuck It List
Lots of people create bucket lists, but I’ve decided it’s high time to create a Fuck It list. The first thing I knocked off my Fuck It list was my PhD. That’s right. I’m a grad school dropout – a badge I intend to wear with pride.
I officially withdrew from my university last week. With the simple click of a button, I’m done with academia. I’m done with the hustle, the guilt, the gorilla on my back. This wasn’t an easy decision, but it was the right one. It would have been easier to continue, as that’s what I’ve always done, to just power through, but at what cost? I haven’t enjoyed this experience, it isn’t serving me, so what was the point of it all? I’m reclaiming my time. Scratch it off the Fuck It list.
With letting that go, I’ve decided to let many other things go. I’ve had enough. So here’s what else is on my Fuck It list.
I’m done feeling guilty for wanting the things I want and the life I pursue. Those expectations? Fuck it.
I’m done clambering for your approval. I wouldn’t have gotten it anyways, so fuck it.
I’m done feeling sorry for the things you refuse to change. Not my decisions, so fuck it.
I’m done making excuses. I rarely believe them anyhow, so fuck it.
I’m done justifying my choices. I owe no one a reason, so fuck it.
I’m done ignoring my needs. I won’t bend over backwards to make others comfortable. Say it with me now: Fuck it.
I’m done playing nice, I’m done being the good girl, I’m done fulfilling the roles everyone wants me to play.
I’m ready to show up for me.
Everything else? Fuck it.